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Testimony of an erotic dancer: "Nobody—not myself, not the other women—enjoys being pawed, poked, prodded and fucked by men we wouldn't give the time of day if we met them elsewhere. I remember one evening, in the clinic where I used to drink coffee and collect condoms, a particular humorous remark made to a young prostitute by one of the older women. They were discussing an unexpected surge in trade the night and the younger woman mentioned how she'd gone home exhausted after it.

The humor—for those it is lost on—was in the absurdity. The truth of the matter is that the nature of prostitution flavours the sexual act as far too distasteful and too sleazy and too bound up with degradation to allow any kind of wholesale enjoyment. Of course this will fly in the face of the fantasists, but the reality of prostitution usually does. A woman's feelings here range between mild distaste and outright disgust and only in unique or very exceptional circumstances will her experience be any different.

That is not to say these unique and exceptional experiences do not, once in a blue moon, occur. For some women, they do, and when they do, no-one is more surprised than the woman herself. I would know, because on two occasions those experiences happened to me. When I was sixteen I was released from a court order, the purpose of which had been to keep me detained for my own protection. It did not have the required effect. The reason for this was clear, and I still wonder how the children's court could have been so foolish as to imagine that a few months of detention would have turned my life around when I was released back onto the streets with no viable alternative to prostitution.

If they'd had any real dedication to helping me change my life, they would have detained me for a couple of years and made it a condition of my future parole that I complete some form of training, be it secretarial, hairdressing, etc. It wouldn't have been rocket science, it could have been done and I know I would have been capable of applying myself to it.

Anyway, this did not happen; I was released after a few months and it was at this point I went to live in the brothel on Leeson Street. The first car that pulled up on my first night back on the streets was driven by a young man in his early to mid-twenties. He was attractive, not disrespectful in his manner and he was shy, quiet, not speaking to me much on the way to the laneway I used. When we arrived there I realised that I was aroused. I hadn't seen my then boyfriend for months and hadn't had any intimacy. I suddenly realised that I missed it; I missed being held and touched.

I told him that I'd changed my mind, that I would do intercourse, so he slipped on a condom and it was all over in minutes. He pulled out his wallet and asked how much he owed me. It was the first time I'd ever done anything sexual without being paid first and I knew why: this was not a job. Nothing would have felt more unnatural than taking money for something sexual that I'd wanted to happen.

Also I had never had intercourse for money at that point, I had never sold myself in that way, and I didn't want to be able to say that I had. I told him not to worry about it. No doubt he knew something strange had happened but it was easy not to see his expression in the dark.

He dropped me back down to the street and then I went to work for real. What happened that night is not something that could be seen as prostitution. An act of prostitution had been intended on both sides but none had taken place. What happened actually transcended the prostitution experience: wilful intercourse with zero mental reservations is not prostitution, and could not, to my mind, be framed as such. My co-workers did not share my views. They roundly agreed that in not taking the money I was: 'A fuckin' eejit! The second of these experiences happened about three years after that.

I was working in escort prostitution at the time. I called to the house of a man who had a beautiful face with a gentle relaxed smile and eyes as brown and shining as polished chestnuts. He welcomed me with a lovely soft English accent and poured me a glass of chilled white wine.

I almost never drank on the job and certainly not with a new customer, but for a combination of reasons I broke the rules that night with that man. Everything in his home was warm; the colors, the smells, the textures. It was all amber and mahogany and the scent of cinnamon.

The vibe was very gentle, very neutral. I was relaxed and at my ease. That in itself was highly unusual. I have already described how a woman in prostitution knows when she needs to be alert: she also knows when she doesn't, but because the former situation is by far the most common, in a converse way, situations like this contain more surprise. He had hired me for two hours and was obviously not rushed. Sitting on his sofa, I realized there was so little tension in me there was almost none; I was not worried about where this was going.

I was not mentally bracing myself the way I always did. I was not constructing the wall, not fully. I wasn't given to suspect that I was going to need it. The bald truth was that there was something about this man and this environment that was soothing, relaxing, and seductive. When we went to bed I found that I didn't mind his hands on me. The first indicator was that I didn't feel repulsed, as I always did. His hands were smooth but firm and slow in their movements.

They were not invasive, not intrusive, and when he stroked me it was from the base of my neck to the curve of my calf; he seemed to adore my whole body with his hands. He did nothing to me physically to ify his domination, which was as unfamiliar as to frame the experience as unique in itself. When he gently parted my legs and entered me, I inadvertently let out a little gasp.

Then he muttered in my ear: 'You don't have to pretend you like it'. That was when the nature of the experience changed. This was a very well-mannered man. Apparently decent, he seemed thoughtful. Besides the obvious point of his purchasing me, he was not overtly disrespectful it would not have been possible to feel arousal for him if he was but as for the way he viewed me and my part in this experience: he thought I wouldn't like it.

He thought he knew I wouldn't like it, and, like so many others before him, his arousal was dependent on the fact that I would not. Immediately I understood this and felt my response shut down. The wall had sprung up. I felt very disconnected from my own body, as usual, but not for the usual reasons. This time I hadn't stepped out of my body; I had stayed inside it, and found that I wasn't welcome there.

It was very surreal, the rest of that sex. I was as far away from myself as I have ever been, and it was such a strange and deeply disconcerting feeling, lying there feeling all the sensations that would have been arousing had I been welcome to inhabit my own body. For those who talk of prostitution as work, know this: the core skill of a prostitute's 'work' is learning to stay outside of herself for her own sake.

So as for these two experiences: the first was not a sexually pleasurable experience within prostitution; it was a sexually pleasurable experience which had been taken out of the realms of prostitution, because sexual pleasure was not congruent with it. And as for the second: it could have been a sexually pleasurable experience had I not been reminded how surplus to requirements a woman in prostitution is. Her body is useful—the rest of her is irrelevant, and unwelcome. Only if a woman were a masochist, deeply aroused by her own degradation, would it be possible for her to frame this reality as arousing.

As for the overall dearth of a prostitute's sexual pleasure, I have not needed to wonder about that and even if I had I would have been reminded by the bouts of sexual dysfunction I have experienced while writing this book, particularly during periods when I was writing a lot and processing larger quantities of unwelcome memories every day. The myth of prostitutes' sexual pleasure exists as one of several tactics which are used to sanitize and normalize the prostitution experience.

The reasoning behind this is simple: if it is seen to be pleasurable for some women, then it couldn't be all that bad for women generally, could it? This is nonsense, and like most nonsense, it exists for a reason: framing prostitution as acceptable is that reason. It is not the only tactic used to this end, there are several. The two unusual and isolated experiences I've recounted do not point to the existence of prostitutes' sexual pleasure.

They attest to the opposite, because the first of the times I experienced pleasure from a man I met in this way, the experience had to be wholly contorted into its opposite before it was acceptable to me; and the second time I experienced pleasure it had to, necessarily, be rejected. In both cases, my pleasurable responses were incongruent with prostitution. Female pleasure does not belong in prostitution, and both male and female participants intuitively understand it has no place there.

Perhaps my two experiences will be malformed and misrepresented so as to serve as evidence for those who would prefer to see prostitution filtered through the prism of erotica, but a person who draws conclusions from logic will deduce that such a very tiny sampling does not color any experience as a whole.

The simple reality is that if you are heterosexual and you meet thousands of members of the opposite sex over a span of several years, you are likely to find at least a very tiny of them sexually appealing.

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The sex was never, ever fun: My lessons in prostitution